My (Non-Existent) Southward American Itinerary (And My Anxiety)
I had a plan. Well, a vague idea. I came dorsum from exploring Southeast Asia afterward solely 2 months for 2 reasons: to speak at a NYC move present inwards Jan as well as to give a keynote speech communication inwards Orlando inwards Feb almost connecting amongst consumers on social media.
It didn’t brand sense to wing home, dorsum to Asia, as well as and thus dorsum again, thus what to do amongst the fourth dimension inwards betwixt talks?
“South America,” I thought. It’s a identify I haven’t visited much, thus what amend means to pass my fourth dimension than seeing the continent?
(Well, at to the lowest degree component of it.)
With the 7 weeks I had, I planned to explore Argentina as well as Chile. Then, upon realizing that Uruguay was a ferry ride from Buenos Aires, I thought, “Let’s larn at that spot too.” So my seven-week trip was going to await similar this:
Buenos Aires (Argentina) –> Colonia (Uruguay) –> Montevideo (Uruguay) –> Rosario (Argentina) –> Córdoba (Argentina) –> Mendoza (Argentina) –> Santiago (Chile) –> Torres del Paine (Chile) –> Bariloche (Argentina) –> Santiago (Chile)
A niggling fast-paced but all the same non also fast.
I picked this road because it made the most logistical sense. Whereas my itinerary inwards Southeast Asia revolved around a utilization (to reckon Isaan), this itinerary came almost because I drew instantly lines as well as these places vicious on the lines!
But, afterward 2 days inwards Buenos Aires, I changed my plans.
This fourth dimension it had cypher to do amongst existence pulled inwards some other direction or coming together people as well as deciding to move amongst them.
It had to do amongst the fact that I was metaphorically dr0wning.
See, I’ve e'er been a high-strung person. I run also much, I don’t residual run as well as play, as well as I brand myself vague promises that tomorrow I’ll do things differently — but I never do. I receive got that New England run ethic (which I receive got no regrets about), but since December, it’s caused me anxiety. The form that makes your midpoint twitch.
My assistant Erica describes my run ethic every bit “super full-time,” which usually isn’t a problem, but lately it’s developed into one. I’m juggling also many projects. While I’ve e'er done that, afterward talking to a actually closed friend, I realized that the departure betwixt at nowadays as well as the by was that I did all my previous juggling piece inwards 1 place. I could create a schedule. Now, I’m trying to do viii things (literally) piece traveling, as well as it’s been difficult to maintain.
Moreover, there’s been some actually big personal as well as describe of piece of job solid unit of measurement issues going on that receive got but added to this “weight.”
Something had to give and, unfortunately, it was my sanity.
In an endeavour to reclaim my sanity as well as wellness as well as recommit to creating the residual inwards my life I promised myself months agone after my friend’s passing, I decided to brand a change. Mind you, I’m non unhappy (my life is pretty awesome) or feeling ungrateful, as well as I know I brought this upon myself, but I can’t larn on similar this.
So what does that mean? Besides dropping projects left as well as right, my itinerary at nowadays looks similar this:
Can’t reckon anything? Where’s that map? Nope, your browser is non broken. That’s no mistake. There’s no itinerary anymore. I at nowadays receive got no timetable for this trip. I’ve spent the in conclusion calendar week inwards Mendoza, Argentina, drinking vino as well as finishing a brace of projects I needed/wanted done, but amongst those complete, all that is left is whatever weblog posts I pick out to write. I don’t conception on actually seeing much other than Netflix (please, no Making a Murderer spoilers!), the terminate of many practiced books, as well as the slap-up outdoors every bit I hike the shit out of Patagonia.
As I thought almost the causes of my anxiety as well as feelings of panic, I kept coming dorsum to the give-and-take have. I have to do this, I have to attend this event, I have to larn to this meeting, or I have to nation aye to this. My friend James Altucher wrote a majority called The Power of No, and I’ve thought a lot lately almost that liberating give-and-take — no. I experience inwards our modern life nosotros autumn into “the busy trap” where nosotros nation aye to everything. Suddenly, nosotros larn caught upwards inwards a wheel as well as we’re going nonstop. We’re overcommitted, burnt out, as well as drinking loose energy drinks or java to remain awake for it all.
But beyond a few basic needs (eating, drinking water, taking attention of family, as well as working), nosotros don’t have to do anything. We don’t necessitate to nation aye to everything or everyone. We tin nation no. We are the masters of our ship, as well as if nosotros don’t desire to do something, nosotros don’t receive got to! It’s our lives. Who cares what people think? I e'er knew this on an intellectual level, but it wasn’t until my midpoint started twitching as well as I felt similar I couldn’t conduct hold it all that I finally realized it on an emotional level.
I got caught upwards inwards the wheel as well as didn’t realize until I was dr0wning. I allow it go out of control.
So I am saying: no more.
I turned downwards that keynote. I don’t conception on running tours this year. I said no to all upcoming podcasts and interviews. I cleared the calendar, nuked the inbox, pose upwards an out of office, as well as allow larn of some people inwards my life that shouldn’t receive got been there.
Now, I am off to Chile, where I’ll receive got an Intrepid tour of Patagonia. After that, I’ll remain inwards Patagonia as well as rattling tardily brand my means dorsum due north to Santiago.
A few weeks ago, I watched the painting The Way. There is a slap-up describe inwards it: “You don’t pick out a life. You alive it.” But I solely partially concur amongst that. I yell upwards yous do brand a choice.
Each twenty-four hours is a conduct chances to larn 1 measuring closer to your ideal, because if yous don’t examine to brand tomorrow amend than today, what’s the point?
As I brand my pick to larn closer to my ideal, I don’t know what the hereafter holds, but I know I’m on the correct path as well as that brings me a lot of comfort.
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